2013-10-14 / Columns

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I Didn’t Expect To See That
by Larry Vandeventer

There have been times in the past when I have had to take several deep breaths into a brown paper sack with Kroger on the side to overcome the shock and awe an experience provided.

I am amazed at how much time and expense people spend searching for Sasquatch in the western part of America. The History Channel, SyFy Channel, Science Channel and Discovery Channel have dedicated many programs and much money in the search for such things as UFOs, ghosts, ETs and Bigfoot. I have never looked for Him or Her and I never expect to see either. Other countries search for Yeti and the Loch Ness Monster.

I watched a short news item involving high school and college age people on a back-to-school prank. Young men with cameras were in Outer “Mallgolia” pulling pranks on teenage girls. They would sneak behind them, pick them up and sweep them off their feet in a good hearted trick. Every girl had a phone in her hand. I expect to see that any more.

We were eating Sunday lunch at McAlister’s Deli on Rockville Road at Raceway Road. We had gone to early worship so it was about 11:30 when the sighting was made. As we prepared to leave a family of three walked out. The man was in his late 30’s as was his wife and they had a young teen son with them. They looked normal, natural in most every way. The man looked successful in dress and manners. He smiled easily and chatted with son and wife. The boy was casually dressed, clean, mannered, short hair and easy smile, although he did look as if he might have preferred to be with friends. Who knows? The woman was dressed casually but neatly and did not stand out from the usual and customary apparel of the day. She looked like most women her age with the same hair style, glasses, nails; she looked pleasant as she chatted with her husband and son. She, however, presented the most unusual sight that I have seen in many moons.

I didn’t expect to see a woman doing this. Women in proper society just do not do this. This kind of activity is not seen in the suburbs or even in other locations. I wanted to approach and ask, “What are you doing? Are you trying to make a statement to the world?”

We spent the day before at the Penrod Arts Days at the Indianapolis Museum of Art. There were hundreds of women there and I noted that no woman was doing as this woman at McAlister’s.

Some women, as do men, try to stand out from the crowd. They try to set new trends. They fly in the face of normalcy and thumb their noses at that which is called usual, normal and propitious. They grow weary of living up to the expectations of others, especially that which is termed politically correct. They want to be “their own woman” and propel themselves with reckless abandon and let others think what they may. After all, people think what they will anyway. Is that the motivation for her behavior on this day? I wanted to ask but lacked the temerity.

I had made a judgment about her that may or may not have been accurate. I assumed she planned to behave in the manner she was displaying. One thing that struck me was that her husband and son did not behave as if she was out of line. They walked along as a group and it appeared that all was amicable between them. If she did not plan to comport herself as she did could it have been an oversight in her preparation for the outing? Perhaps it was beyond her means and or ability to do otherwise. It could be. It is dangerous to create a standard for people and then force them to fit in or be ostracized. I began to question my motives for making these allegations.

What was she doing? She was not carrying a purse of any kind. Nothing.

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